It’s a strange definition of tyranny. After all, a rude demand may be something to discourage, but not a hallmark of abused power. What power does the child have? The parent won’t be arrested or executed or tortured for their refusal. Rather, it is the parent who has the power to punish, and those who call children tyrants are more likely to demand a vicious form.
Children learn much more from example than from forbiddance. A parent who yells and hits will produce a child who yells and hits. No, refusals can be made in a gentle manner, with reasons presented, without projecting evil onto the child. That way, the child doesn’t become a tyrant, and neither do you.
Sean Vivier, MLSS Staff