Yet we miss something. All failure is temporary. Any setback may be overcome. It is our most successful people who fail, but who then rise to the challenge, or to a different challenge, and overcome.
Now, failure is another aspect of life that our school model handles differently than traditional schools.
You can imagine how failure is handled at a typical school. A big F that will stay with them in their records for as long as their records matter. Lectures from the teacher and parents. Conferences. A great deal of attention to make sure they understand that they failed and that this is not acceptable. And should they suddenly understand the material, their grade still reflects their earlier failure.
At a Sudbury school, failure is much more matter-of-fact and value-neutral. There probably wasn’t even anyone over your shoulder to see the failure. If anyone’s present, they aren’t going to rub your face in it. You simply take it in stride and try again - with or without help, as you choose - until you do it right. Failure is something that happens, but not something permanent or earth-shattering.
Now, which treatment do you think better prepares someone for the ups and downs of life?